Q) People who have lost their loved ones , what advice can you given them

My answer :  First of all my condolences to that family. truly it is depressing to suddenly lose your loved ones . but knowing the terms of the world the wise don’t grieve. as by lamentations your loved ones don’t come back alive , it just makes body suffer as the pain gradually increases. they themselves will get sick and pale. yet still the dead ones are not saved by lamentation. life is an illusion and death is the ultimate truth. each and every one is bound to die one or the other day. as ripe fruits are early in danger of falling , so mortals when born are always in the danger of death. and all earthen vessels made by the potter end in being broken , so is the life of mortals. both young and adult , both those who are fools and those who are wise , all fall into the power of death , all are subject to death. a father can’t save his sons , nor the kinsmen their relations. while relatives are lamenting , one and the other mortal is being carried off , like an ox that is led to slaughter . so the world is afflicted with death and decay , therefore the wise don’t grieve knowing the terms of thee world. death is common to all .

yet in this valley of desolation there is a path that leads them to immortality who has surrendered all selfishness - Gautama buddha.

~ Manas Seetharama